Nick left this morning for Washington. I was going to take him to the airport to save money on parking, but by some miracle (or perhaps not) Lincoln was still sleeping at 7 AM. He never sleeps in his bed at 7 AM. He almost always is in our bed by then. So I decided to let him sleep and Nick drove himself and I took a nice warm shower all by myself. It was heavenly.
After we got Ella to the bus stop, Lisey, Lincoln and I went to IKEA and Distribution. I went to distribution to get hymn books so I could learn to play hymns on the piano. I can't wait to get started. Lisey played in the kids clubs at ikeao, while Link and I did some shopping.
I took link for a well check appointment today. 3% for head. 35% for weight and 7% for height. We have a little guy on our hands! Definitely our smallest kid by far, which is ironic since he was our biggest baby. I bet it's because he likes milk much more than he likes food. Where as our other kids liked food much more than milk especially Lisey.
While I was putting on Lisey's jammies, she randomly says to me "I want to take my bum bum to school. And my fingers too." My silly silly goofy hilarious little Lisey.
While I did the dishes and cleaned the kitchen I listened to the rest of my parenting book I've been listening to called scream free parenting. It's was super good! It's all about controlling yourself. It's also about using consequences to teach kids about life. Kids aren't responsible to "make us" mad or happy and we aren't responsible to make them mad or happy. It's not only about parenting but on how to improve yourself and your life. You have to learn to take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else. It's your responsibility to take care of your needs so that no one else has to. You need to take care of your health both mentally and physically so that you can be the best person that you can be and help your kids become responsible and worthwhile adults.
It talked about how important it is to follow through on your promises, both positive ones and negative ones. Your kids need to know that you are a person of integrity and that you will keep your word matter what. It talked about saying what you mean and meaning what you say. Make consequences that both you and your child can live with. I feel like that consequence section was a good win for me to hear because I am notorious for going back on my consequences and being wishy-washy with the kids. The kids need to know that I mean what I say when I say it. They need to know they can trust me. I think when I look at it like that it will make it easier for me to follow through on my consequences and hold for me even when there's whining and complaining. I need to keep my cool and show my kids that I love them enough to show them how to keep your word and show them how to except responsibility for your actions. I feel revolutionized. Hopefully I can keep it up and make the necessary changes to become the best parent I can be by becoming the best person I can be.
No more self-hate. I need to love myself so that I can better love my kids. Jesus Christ said to love your neighbor as you love yourself. If you don't love yourself how are you to love your neighbor? What if I really treated my neighbor how I treated myself? It wouldn't be very pretty that's for sure. Take care of yourself so that you can take care of others. Simple yet profound. Just as the fact that we can only control ourselves and that's it. No one else but us. Period end of story.
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